Wallowing in the The Muck of Stuck?
Grab onto a Life Ring!
I know the feeling…
You’re working soooooooo hard, and doing all the right things, and you’re finally starting to feel like your making progress, and then,
Something happens that just derails you. You know it “shouldn’t”…
(you’ve done lots of inner work, personal development, etc. and you’ve got a handle on your energy, right?) But it knocks you down. And you can’t get up…
You are stuck.
And the longer you stay there the worse it gets.
You see, even though I’ve spent many years making personal
development a priority in my life and I’ve developed a self-care
practice that I know keeps me grounded, AND supports me to live
a life I love, I have to admit that sometimes I allow myself to
wallow in my old bad habits and tune into noise and distraction
rather than to inspiration.
Negative messaging has been a part of my life forever.
I have fun saying that it is “hard coded in my DNA”, and that’s
not just an expression of mine, I believe it to be true.
Some patterns die hard… and my personal replay button is stuck
when it comes to negative messaging.
For me, negative self-talk is my MUCK. Eckhart Tolle calls it my
Ego Mind. Napoleon Hill refers to the Six Ghosts of Fear.
Whatever you choose to call it, my negative messaging sounds
It’s too hard
I can’t figure this out
No one will help me
I’ll never make it
I just can’t
I’d do it but…
If only I had…then…
I’ll never get there
But I have to give up __________.
It’s just not right
But it’s not exactly the way I wanted it
They don’t care anyway
I’m too ___________!
It’s all because of _______________.
Why did this happen to me?!
I GIVE UP!
Maybe I’m not saying “I’m not good enough” verbatum, but my
dirty little secret is that I get knocked down by this stuff just like
you do. S&%T happens! Life isn’t perfect every single day.
Everything doesn’t always go exactly as I planned.
And when I’m vulnerable, I slip into old patterns. My friend ”Daisy Distraction” comes to play. [If you haven't met Daisy yet, when you're finished reading, you can learn more about her here at Meet Daisy Distraction and The Return of Daisy Distraction]
Yet, there is a positive side to this story for me, and there can be one for you, too.
My self-care practice supports me.
Now, armed with my 12 Baby Steps Toolkit close at hand, with
my Inner Wisdom tuned in, I am able to see when a lifeline has been tossed my way.
Most call it synchronicity, or serendipity — this seemingly miraculously coincidence or appearance of the person or thing I
needed to hear — that shakes me free, and allows me to grab the
line and start to pull myself up.
And it isn’t an accident. I created the possibility for that
seemingly miraculous appearance of just the right person,
message or thing I needed to appear.
Baby Step #4: Create Space and Quiet the Noise
Clean up your clutter. Even if all you can muster is to straighten
up just one pile on your desk. My inspiration this week came from
Napoleon Hill’s “Think and Grow Rich” I uncovered from a pile
on my desk!Turn off the TV and the blarring radio. Go for a walk. Stop. Look
and listen. Can you hear the birds or the wind? If you can’t, keep
listening until you can!
Baby Step #5: Tune in to Your Intuition
Come back from your walk, open your journal and write down
your thoughts. When I’m stuck, I always have questions in my
mind like “What’s wrong with me that I can’t do this?”. I believe
we all have the answers we need inside of ourselves. Ask the
question, then listen to your Inner Voice as it provides the
answer. Use your journal to help. A friend of mine writes her
questions in her journal before she goes to bed, and puts it under
her pillow. She always has her answer in the morning!
Baby Step #8: Partner for Support
Reach out for support. When I’m stuck, at first, I don’t want
anyone to know. What I’ve learned is that admitting my blocks to
someone is the single fastest way for me to start moving again!
Just by sharing my challenges with a trusted partner — a friend,
mastermind partner or my coach– shifts the energy. Don’t turn
down the personal support that’s around you. Next, I pull out my
collection of motivational and inspirational books and CDs and
actively use them to support me, letting my Inner Wisdom select
the right one.
[Remember that Napoleon Hill book I stumbled on this week?
Well, there was a CD package with it, too, now playing in my car!
And it's no accident that my blocks lately have all been about
money, success and "riches".]
So, with a little practice and persistence, you can create your
life-ring, too. You can get unstuck!
In fact, I bet you’ve already done it before!
Please share your favorite tips for shaking yourself up, and
finding your lifeline out of the muck of stuck in the comment
section below. We’ll all benefit, I’m sure.
And if you’d like a little support creating your own self-care
toolkit, simply reach out to me at firstname.lastname@example.org, tell
me you’d like some help, and we’ll find the perfect time to
schedule 15 – 30 minutes of no-cost, no obligation a “First Steps
Breakthrough” support call. I do what I do so that every woman
knows that she has a chance to live a life of joy rather than stress
and struggle. Reach out today.
In the spirit of wisdom, wellness and wealth,
I wish you well–
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